Verbal Abuse?

Verbal abuse? How is it that anything said verbally can be abusive? It's not like I'm hitting anyone. I am just showing my anger by throwing out words. I don't even mean those words I'm saying sometimes. That's what most of the people who verbally abuse others used to say.

Yes, you're not hitting anyone but you are definitely hurting someone with your words. And that is why it is called as verbal  abuse. The sad part with verbal abuse is, most victims won't realize that they are being verbally abused. They will undergo emotional pain and mental anguish without realizing the reason why.

Sad isn't it? In order to prevent verbal abuse, you really gotta tell those who are verbally abusing you to stop it or there are no solutions to it. Sometimes recording their words and playing it back to them works too. It is better than verbally abusing someone who is already verbally abusing you, though.

Examples of verbal abuse are:

1. Emotionally Abusive Statements

  • You’re so cute when you try to concentrate! Look at you trying to think.
  • I can’t believe I love a stupid jerk.
  • Aw, come on, can’t you take a joke?

2. Sexually Abusive Statements

  • You should know how to please me by now.
  • I hoped you were less experienced.
  • Stop acting like a whore.

3. Financially Abusive Statements

  • You are going to nickel and dime me to death!
  • In what world does buying that make sense?
  • Fine. You handle your finances. Let me know when things go to hell.

4. Societally Abusive Statements

  • How dare you spread around our private business!
  • Let me do the talking; people listen to men.
  • You took a vow in front of God and everybody and I expect you to honor it!

5. Threatening and Intimidating Statements

  • If you don’t train that dog I’m going to rub your nose in its mess.
  • I will take our kids if you leave me.
  • You’re scared?! This isn’t angry! You will KNOW when I’m ANGRY!

6. Spiritually Abusive Statement

  • Keep your stupid beliefs to yourself.
  • God will find a way to get you back, and it ain’t gonna be pretty.
  • I can feel myself being pulled into hell just listening to your nonsense!

*Due to my lack of experience with verbal abuse, I took these examples from/http://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/verbalabuseinrelationships/2011/09/examples-of-verbal-abuse/


  1. Verbal abuse is one of the most terrible forms of abuse because it causes mental anguish. Its worse because the affects are not visible instantly. With physical abuse. you see and get to react, whereas verbal causes internal wounds. This should stop. If we want to be better people, we need to be more aware of the language we use.

  2. I'm agree with what's Nicholas stated. We need to respect each other and watch out the words that we speak to prevent hurting others indirectly :)

  3. Sometimes, verbal abuse actually inflicted much damage than physical abuse. The pain last longer and sometimes made the victim lose self-confident as well.
    Best if we all watch out what we speak.